Ali Abdullah Al-Quraini

Ali Abdullah Al-Quraini came into this world on June 10th, 2011 to the relief and happiness of my friends & family all across the world.  I was still receiving emails and international calls from his father, who was just as relieved and excited that his first child was finally here -- 9 months after we found out the unexpected news and kept in contact.  The name "Ali" was chosen by Abdullah himself, even though he initially thought the baby would be a girl.  While I would go to the hospital for prenatal check-ups & ultrasounds, Abdullah would call right after asking if everything was okay and normal.  As far as I knew, Abdullah was in Riyadh (the capital of Saudi Arabia) and I was staying in Abu Dhabi, UAE.  Unfortunately, because of what had happened between us in Canada, I refused to see him or meet him in 2010.  Sometimes I wonder if this is the reason he left us -- because I was so mean and harsh to him during that time...  After Ali was born, Abdullah demanded details, pictures, news saying I "wasn't Muslim" if I didn't tell him exactly what had happened.  I mistook this as a sign that he was genuinely excited that he had a baby boy.  I guess I was wrong :-/

Abdullah Alquraini disappeared out of our lives when Ali was 1 month old.  I was seriously thinking to give him another chance at our marriage, just so Ali could have his father around but I had to be sure that Abdullah had changed some of his ways.  I knew that Abdullah wanted to stay with us and be a family so I became worried after not receiving his usual call/email/SMS after July 15th, 2011.  But according to one of Abdullah's last emails, he had joined the Saudi National Guard and was stationed in an army base in Dammam City.  His training would finish after the Eid and he'd be given a holiday, so we made a plan to meet each other in the UAE.  I assumed that since he was at an army base, it would be difficult for him to contact me (but this became doubtful later on) and we would meet in October.

We waited in Abu Dhabi for 1 month but heard nothing.  Then, we went to Oman for 1 month and nothing.  Bahrain for 3 months with Dammam City across the bridge in Saudi and still nothing.  I heard a report that Abdullah Alquraini had died in a car accident in the capital but I refused to believe it until I saw the death certificate.  A dear friend of mine who has connections in the Ministry of Interior then informed me that there was no such person registered in the Saudi National Guard with the Saudi I.D. and name I had given.  Out of anger, I sent Abdullah an email saying he'd been caught and that I wasn't waiting for him to see his son anymore.  By this time, I had re-married a Saudi from Shargiyah who took care of Ali as if he were his own.  

However, I wish I knew what truly happened to Ali's biological father and it seems that he's in the United States as a university student.  BUT it looks like he's done something so unreal that I can't understand it, as none of my friends who knew him before can either.  If he wants to live his life like a single bachelor with no responsibilities, that is his choice.  Wallahi I am done emailing him & calling him trying to get through to him because all he does is ignore me or pretend not to speak English LoL good one...  While I have plenty of evidence including LEGAL/GOVERNMENT documents proving our relationship and witnesses both in Canada & the Middle East, it would be so easy (and a bit satisfying astighforAllah) to drag him through the mud and make huge problems for him.  Sometimes, I am tempted to do so just so he can experience the hurt & pain that I did BUT alhamdulillah, I am not that kind of vindictive evil person.  Finally, I can never hurt or harm the father of my child because maybe later Ali would hate me for it?

My message to Abdullah Alquraini is simple:  

You were my husband, you had a son and you are only hurting yourself.  While it pains me to think that Ali will one day be confused & ask me why his name is different than my husband's, or why he LOOKS different than the rest of his family, I pray that Allah guides you to do the right thing.  Maybe you will, maybe you wont -- but as Muslims we believe in the Day of Judgement when every single soul who was wronged by another will have the chance to take their right from Allah.  Can you imagine what your son will say when he is called by his name??  Well, you probably don't care about any of that so I will say Salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah.  Enjoy this life while it lasts and I hope it was worth leaving your son for...

I just want to say that I am so thankful to Allah for blessing us with the people who are in our lives.  That being said, I pray He guides Abdullah Alquraini to make things right for his son and give him his rights before the Final Day.  I'm seriously worried for any person who abandons an innocent child to the world and can go each day without feeling any kind of regret or remorse.  Also, I feel sorry for the girl who is someday gonna marry Abdullah Alquraini -- imagine NOT knowing your husband used to be married to another woman AND had a baby with her??  OMG if I knew that I would be like "uhhhh wth?!?!"  

Thank-you for reading our story and please make prayers for all the mothers and children who were wronged, deceived and denied their basic human & Islamic rights.  

(رَبَّنَا لاَ تُؤَاخِذْنَا إِن نَّسِينَا أَوْ أَخْطَأْنَا رَبَّنَا وَلاَ تَحْمِلْ عَلَيْنَا إِصْرًا كَمَا حَمَلْتَهُ عَلَى الَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِنَا رَبَّنَا وَلاَ تُحَمِّلْنَا مَا لاَ طَاقَةَ لَنَا بِهِ وَاعْفُ عَنَّا وَاغْفِرْ لَنَا وَارْحَمْنَا أَنتَ مَوْلاَنَا فَانصُرْنَا عَلَى الْقَوْمِ الْكَافِرِينَ)

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(رَبَّنَا مَا خَلَقْتَ هَذا بَاطِلاً سُبْحَانَكَ فَقِنَا عَذَابَ النَّارِ رَبَّنَا إِنَّكَ مَن تُدْخِلِ النَّارَ فَقَدْ أَخْزَيْتَهُ وَمَا لِلظَّالِمِينَ مِنْ أَنصَارٍ رَّبَّنَا إِنَّنَا سَمِعْنَا مُنَادِيًا يُنَادِي لِلإِيمَانِ أَنْ آمِنُواْ بِرَبِّكُمْ فَآمَنَّا رَبَّنَا فَاغْفِرْ لَنَا ذُنُوبَنَا وَكَفِّرْ عَنَّا سَيِّئَاتِنَا وَتَوَفَّنَا مَعَ الأبْرَارِ رَبَّنَا وَآتِنَا مَا وَعَدتَّنَا عَلَى رُسُلِكَ وَلاَ تُخْزِنَا يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ إِنَّكَ لاَ تُخْلِفُ الْمِيعَاد ِ)

Break Ben Ayed Bin Hanash Al-Qarni his adult son has some questions to ask!!!

Meet Lisi, she is mother to Gabriel Break Al-Qarni.  Gabriel is 26 years old and has spent the last 25 years of his life without any communication from his father Break Ben Ayed Bin Hanash Al-Qarni.  I ask the readers help in getting the post spread to Break Ben Ayed Bin Hanash Al-Qarni and let him know his adult son has some questions to ask of his father.  

 Lisi's Story.

Break Ben Ayed Bin Hanash Al-Qarni attended Temple University School of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania on a student visa from 1981 through 1986 and graduated in May 1986 with Bachelor’s degree in Criminal Justice Legal studies.

I was 16 years old when I met Break Ayed Al-Qarni Hanash in the summer of 1981 a couple of months before my 17th birthday.  My friend Waleska who lived in the same neighborhood introduced me to Berik. He wanted everyone to call him Berik for it was  much easier to pronounce his name and on his driver's license the name shown was Berik Ayed Al-Kerni for at that time the U.S recommended for any student's that came from another country to change their name that was difficult to pronounce in a american version but no longer U.S. required to change the names due to Homeland Security purposes...

 Well, I started dating Berik and we spent a lot of time together with friends and family, especially on the holidays.  A year after I graduated from High School, I attended college and he asked me to move in with him. During spring break and summer of 1981 through 1984 he went to visit his family in Saudi Arabia, not sure if he actually made these trips to Saudi Arabia for he never asked me to accompany him to the airport and he never called me during his stay in Saudi Arabia. Also, he only brought gifts one time for me and my family.  He was very secretive. Perhaps,during one of these trips he married.

  I was very naive and he instilled fear in me by physically abusing me. He was a very jealous man, he never wanted for me to have any connection with his friends. However, occasionally we would visit his two close friends who were also from Saudi Arabia or they came to our apartment for dinner.  A couple of times I decided to leave him and I returned home to my family but he always looked for me and say that he was sorry for the way he treated me and that he still loved me. 

 Break was very upset when he found out that I was pregnant and he wanted me to get an abortion. I did not believe in abortion because of my Christian beliefs but at that time I did not live a christian life for the Bible says it is a sin to have a relationship with a man without being married.....I had my son Gabriel Break Al-Qarni on May 13, 1985. |After a couple of months later after my son's birth, Break finally accepted his son but in reality he did not...... He also trained our son to walk before Gabriel 1st birthday.  His student visa expired in May of 1986 and a day before his return to Saudi Arabia, he named our son Abdullah and then he promised to provide financial support and to pay for my son’s college education. Also, he stated for me to call him whenever my son needed food and diapers and etc….which it was a bunch of lies!!!! 

Then he provided his Saudi Arabia home contact number and showed me how to ask for him in the Arabic language.  After a couple of days I decided to call him and a man answered the phone, he was acting like he did not understand what I was saying, then  I repeatedly asked to speak with Berik in regards to our son, Gabriel Break Al-Qarni and then he yelled at me in english and said, “He is dead! He is dead! He is dead! and closed the phone. I have no doubts that it was him and acted like someone else.  My life was totally ruined. I was having financial problems and I depended on the government (welfare)  for food and cash assistance for it was not enough to pay for apartment and utility bills. Then the landlord decided to changed the locks for I couldn't pay rent, then me and my son were homeless, but thank God, a good friend (older woman) took us in until I found a cheaper apartment. I lost everything, my son’s crib, diapers, milk, food,our clothes, the turban that Berik gave to Gabriel including all of our pictures that Berik and me took over the years and my son's baby pictures, vacation photos of Washington, DC and Orlando Disney photos and Berik contact phone number.   I experienced a lot of pain and suffering for many years due to the fact that Berik did not live up to his promises to his son.  It was so cruel and heartless for what he did to me and my son.  

I always believed that he was alive and that he planned it from the very start to never have any contact with me or his son. I don't wish for any women to go through this type of experience. Therefore, I strongly warn women not to date or live with these Saudi Arabia men for in their mind is to study and have a career in Saudi Arabia, unless he really want's to marry you and he introduced you to his family! Or if it's not serious do not have any intimate relationship and if you do..... Use Protection! It's not fair to the child to be fatherless.  Just keep in mind " Loving a person doesn't hurt but loving the wrong person does"   A real man will protect you and no matter what he will not keep you in secret. He will tell the whole world that he has you in his life no matter what and it includes his family!!!!It's not just Saudi men but all men, their is good and bad from any country they come from.  If a man says he loves you and make sure there is proof.    

Learn to have high standards of yourself.  You are important! What happened to me was that I was not instructed by my mother to be careful of men for it was a "taboo"  to speak of such things with their children but I don't blame my mother for it was the way she was raised. I came from a poor background and my parents are from Puerto Rico which is part of the United States, however our culture was different from the Americans many years ago.  But now, the latin families are becoming more openly with their children and teaching them to make the right choices. 

Unfortunately, I was a minor at that time and I became a victim of his lies. Berik never told his family about me.  After I had my son he stated he cannot tell his family for they will kill him because of the Sharia' Law but he said he will support his son as long they don't about Gabriel.  I never attempted to go to the Saudi Arabia Embassy after Break left out of fear and for financial reasons. Now my son is 26 years old, since his teenage years he wondered about his father. Through out the years my son was and still is  emotionally hurt and angry that his father never attempted to search for him but now he wants to see his father.

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Break Ben Ayed Bin Hanash Al-Qarni 

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Letters to the Families of our son's and daughter's Father / خطاب لأسر أطفالنا

كل المعلومات الوارده بالرسائل صحيحه و نستطيع اثباتها باختبار الدي ان اي.
اي شخص له علاقه بالعائلات المذكورة و يريد اثباتات و ادله او اي استفسار، يتواصل معنا.
The information written in these letters is real and can be easily ascertained by doing a DNA testing. If any person related to the family of these men want information may contact me to provide them the contact information of these girls.

TO READ GO TO:
لقراءة ذهاب إلى:

1. رسالة الى أب الحارثي / Letter for father Alharthy

2. الي عائلة سلطان عبدالله عسيري ،، / To the Family of Sultan Abdullah Asiri

3. السادة المدعو الراجحي / To Alrajhi family

4. ى عائلة باهي نبيل قطب / To the family of Bahi Nabil Qutub

ى عائلة باهي نبيل قطب / To the family of Bahi Nabil Qutub

الى عائلة باهي نبيل قطب الذين يعيشون في مكه المركرمة

الى عائلة باهي نبيل قطب الذين يعيشون في المملكة العربية السعودية ( مكه المكرمه) ..............                                 اما بعد

هذه الرسالة اليكم لكي تتعرفو الى ماذا فعل ابنكم من افعال مسيئه الى سمعة عائلتكم عندما كان يدرس بالولايات المتحده الامريكيه في ولايه تكساس في جامعة هيوستن حيث كان على علاقه مع امراه الى مده عام و انتهت هذه العلاقه بانجاب طفل اسمه ريان باهي قطب. بعد محاولاتي الاتضال بباهي التي بائت بالفشل و الرفض من باهي الى مناقشه مساله ابننا ريان. ابننا ريان قد ولد قبل 3 اسابيع من تاريخ هذي الرساله و الى وقت هذه الرسالة باهي لم يبالي ماذا فعل. اود ان اعلمكم بأني لا اريد ارغامه على الزواج مني انما ما اريده هو ان باهي ان يتواجد في حياة ابنه ريان. ايضا هذه الرسالة بان انا اريد معلومات بالامراض الوراثيه الموجودة في العائله لكي يتم علاجه بالطريقه الصحيحه و هذي المعلومات جدا مهمه الى صحة ابننا ريان. انا اسائلكم الى الاتصال بي باقرب وقت الى مناقشه الموضوع على البريد الالكتروني  cnicole77@live.com

 باهي نبيل - Bahi Nabil

 باهي نبيل - Bahi Nabil

   ريان  - Rayan

ريان  - Rayan

 ريان  - Rayan

ENGLISH TRANSLATION

To the Family of Bahi Nabil Qutub who live in the city of Makkah Saudi Arabia. 

This letter is to inform you of the shameful actions of your son Bahi Nabil Qutub.
While attending college at the University Of Huston in Texas Bahi began an almost year long relationship with a woman resulting in the birth of a child. I have often tried to contact Bahi to discuss our child with the end result being his silence.

Rayan Bahi Qutub was born in March of 2012, and he has become my whole life. Bahi has not yet contacted me to find out how his son is doing.

I want to note that I do not wish to forcefully marry your son although I would like for Bahi to be involved in our sons life. Also it is important for us to have the family medial history for my child's health. I ask you to please contact me at cnicole77@live.com To discuss the issue further.

Attempted to shut down the blog

Recently someone have tried to shut down the blog... I don't know who the person is or what are the reasons to do this but we already have a backup if we need to re-open a blog.

 Since we opened this blog we knew this would cause controversy and many opinions. That's why maybe some people feel offended or they disagree with what is being published. However, our intent is just to let this families knows about their grandson's and granddaughter's left behind because MAYBE they want to be part of our children life's (MAYBE we're wrong). In NO case we want to force these men to marry us, go back to them, or get their "money." It is easy to criticize and comment on a situation that NEVER have gone through, and judging people, but nobody knows how they have been situations of each of these girls.

Thanks a lot and May God guide us.

السادة المدعو الراجحي / To Alrajhi family

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Thank you!